A Day in the Life of a Pastor – The Empty Nest


I sit in silence.

Early morning and the temperature is so perfect, even the AC/Heat is quiet.  The dog is walked and fed.  And my lovely bride of twenty eight years is sleeping soundly upstairs.  It is 5am.

I have been asked a lot about “How does it feel to be empty nesters?”  I really hadn’t thought about it much.  Abby moved out in early December to prepare for her new life on the coast when she gets married at the end of the month.  It made perfect sense that she wanted to start preparing for “life” when she is done with all the festivities.  Holidays were filled with things to do and people to see.  It finished with a Christmas Eve schedule that was extensive but so worth it to see the gospel shared.

Monday, I came home to an empty house.  Kristin was still at the church finishing her daily work and I arrived to be greeted by our dog. After taking care of her, I sat down to silence.  Now, I am an introvert by nature so silence is a great thing for me to recharge and remember my day.  I made a few phone calls and was back in silence.  Sounds sad, doesn’t it?

It’s not.  Here is what I feel about being an empty nester.

A sense of accomplishment.  I am excited and proud of the kids who have lived in this home of over twenty years and are now making their own homes and families.  Our kids (biological and “adopted”) are doing some great stuff with their lives.  It is great when they come over and we get to see them but I love they leave to are create their own environments for their families.  They are good.  They know and love God.  They love others. Are they perfect – no way.  Couldn’t teach them that because I do not know how to be perfect.

A sense of “me time.”  Sounds selfish but for the first time in my life, I can plan my day around me. I don’t have to tip toe around in the morning or stay up later than I want.  I am reading, listening to music, working out, playing golf and able to enjoy spending time with people we have wanted to connect with now.  Yes, I did all that before but now I it is a whole lot easier.

A sense of anticipation.  This is my biggest feeling that I am enjoying.  It is like we are now in a new stage of life that holds endless opportunities.  I don’t know what the Lord has in store for us but we both have a lot of gas in the tank.  We feel strong in the ministries that God allows us to lead.  (More excited about GFC than ever before!)  We both love our families and relationships.  We both love to explore new things – so who knows what we may do or turn into a trip.  We both love to grow and expand our experiences.  We have new pages to write and we both can’t wait to see how the Lord will fill those up.

And we love being home with our kids and grandkids when they come over.  We eat, we laugh, we get on the floor and wrestle (grandkids only), and we love.  And then they go home.

The silence returns…and it is good.

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