S – An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones

Proverbs 12:4 ESV

O – Commentary:

A wife of noble character (cf. 31:10; Ruth 3:11) is like a crown on her husband’s head, that is, her strength of character (ḥayil is lit., “strength”) makes her husband proud and honored. She adds dignity to him. Conversely a disgraceful wife (one who is not noble or strong morally) decays his bones (cf. comments on Prov. 3:8); her shame gives him inner pain

Sid S. Buzzell, “Proverbs,” in The Bible Knowledge Commentary: An Exposition of the Scriptures, ed. J. F. Walvoord and R. B. Zuck, vol. 1 (Wheaton, IL: Victor Books, 1985), 930.

A – There is quite a gap between dignity and shame.  A spouse can bring either one to their marriage.  We need to be aware that our thoughts, words and actions can be powerful and influential in causing either in our marriage.  When we move towards God, we invite the strength of character this verse is unpacking.

R – Heavenly Father, you are Holy.  Empower us today to bring our best towards you and our spouse in our integrity, character and heart.  In doing so, bless us with unity and peace in our marriage.   Thank you for our spouses – they are amazing!  We are proud of them and love them.